Code of Conduct

A Sidekick Girl is "the best friend" (or "the Black best friend" depending on who you are).  She plays the supporting character, the 'B story.'  She's that girl you probably don't remember meeting or that one friend you take for granted.  She may have low self-esteem and often she allows herself to be an option while making everyone else a priority.

This is not a blog about a Sidekick Girl.  This is a blog about a Former Sidekick Girl.

A Former sidekick girl... 

...will not get punked into buying anything (including training sessions) by aggressive sales people and especially by friends. 

...will not allow her male friends to take advantage of her either sexually or otherwise. 

...will not shake hands with someone who has just been picking his nose.

---will not agree to third wheel (or fifth wheel) especially when it's so blatantly obvious that she's been asked to third wheel (or fifth wheel).

...will not ask permission.

...will not take coffee or food suggestions just to be nice to the baristas or servers.  If she's not feeling adventurous it's OK to stick with her usual black coffee. 

...will not cry when she's getting fired from a job she hates.

...will not make out with her boss and then later quit the job when the boss turns psycho.

...will not engage in pointless conversations with guys who use insults as a form of flirting.  

...will not ask where she stands with a friend but instead will make that decision for herself.

...will not allow herself to be pressured into having sex.

...equally important, a former SKG will not pretend the sex was good when really it was underwhelming. 

...will not accept phone calls or respond to text messages from men who are not her boyfriend after 11pm.

...will terminate friendships with people who laugh at her misfortune.  

...will not be anyone's secret friend or girlfriend.  

...And no matter how busy or important she is, a Former Sidekick Girl always has time to put books back on the bookshelves after she's done perusing them.  The same goes for throwing away her trash when exiting a movie theater.

This is a Former Sidekick Girl's Code of Conduct.  My own personal set of guidelines to keep me from slipping back into Sidekick mentality.  To be clear, I am a former SideKICK girl, not a side CHICK.  There's a difference.

Also, I may change and grow into a better version of myself but my core truth will always remain the same.

That is to say,

-I will always be a good person.
-I will show kindness and compassion.
-To the best of my ability I will exercise patience and be loving.  

-And above all, I will always be the girl who prefers flats to heels.

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